Wednesday, July 29, 2009

How to avoid things that are not beneficial.


Sometimes, a lot of people ( no, not me, I'm a Saint, you know ) go after things, although they know are not beneficial in the long run, for example someone who has high cholesterol and still wants a fatty steak or, a woman who wants more and more shoes, ( I'm the only woman in the world who has only two 5 or 6 pairs and doesn't want more ) even if she has already a lot and her account is in the red....here, I came to know this trick, that can be very helpful in such a situation.
First, try to visualize something you don't like at all, something you find disgusting....ok? now take note of the image's features:
  • the object is near or far?
  • it's bright or dark?
  • in which part of the "screen" you see it, right, left, up, down, center....?
  • it has bright colors or is in B & W ?
  • it's focused or not?
Next, visualize the "item" you want to avoid, and give it the same qualities the unpleasant one had.
If you do this exercise for some day you will note how your feelings about the object, will change.

Friday, July 24, 2009

See the humour :)


I note that bloggers I appreciate more, are the funniest ones, people who write about their life and themselves, smiling and focusing on the humorous side of it, are the best, to me.
And I believe they enjoy very much doing that, and they are happier then others.
Moreover they are valued, and tend to find friends more easily.
Everybody (me too, I will commit, I swear) can do so, try to pay attention at the funny side of life, and share it, it will enhance your day and others' too.
You can find very hilarious stuff, here and if/when you find some biiig mistake on my blog you are allowed to laugh at me loudly. :D

Thursday, July 16, 2009

Turn the light on!


I thought about posting something about the usefulness of pain as ... I don't say that you can be happy continuously, 24 hours a day, that you won't suffer any more for the rest of your life... sometimes suffering is unavoidable and may be useful, for instance experiencing it, gives you understanding of other's people problems, and it gives you the possibility to better appreciate good times...but I won't.
Instead I wish to focus attention, on a matter that I consider a nodal point.
When you suffer, in a psychological or physical way, you tend to fight against it, and continually think about it, this doesn't work.
In this manner you give strength to the problem, fighting it, is the best way to maintain it.
It is like being in a dark room and trying to kick darkness away. Impossible!
The only way, you know, is to bring some light in, and darkness is gone, you can turn the switch on, if there is one (otherwise go and buy some candles or a lamp ;-).
Same thing happens with bad thoughts, evil habits, evil in general, it has the same property of darkness, bring some good, and ill is no more.
For example, you have a bad eating habit, if you continuously think: "I don't have to eat junk food", and blame yourself, you will, for sure.
Instead begin to think about eating healthy, and one step at a time, do it, start small and grow.
I read a concept on an italian blog, I liked it, is about small changes...when you introduce little changes in your life, and maintain them, though you consider them small, results will be huge in the long run, like a little diversion in the trajectory of a straight line, you'll see, after a while how much the trajectory is changed.
Very inspiring for me.

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

10 - enjoy life just now!



How many of us are living the same boring routine, e.g. waiting at the bus stop, with an almost sad face :( , why? may be....the weather or the job...or thinking at troubles, who knows.....
But,what the hell! What a waste of time! Feeling so and so, and with no purpose!
Waiting for ... what?!?
No, it is possible to lift our spirit right now, just imagine yourself smiling, cheering up and changing your mood.
Use your imagination and/or focus on the beautiful things available to brighten up your life every moment you can .... it is our responsibility to do so for ourself, love ourself, cuddle our being...
life is so short, it's a shame to waste it...feeling bad for nothing.
What do you like? What gives you enjoyment?
Music? A book? A walk? Playing with you kids? Hugging your buddy? Meeting with bosom friends? Joking? Relaxing? Gardening?.....
Think it well, and, as possible as you can, give it to yourself. You deserve it!

Here are some funny quote:

The pen is mightier than the sword, and considerably easier to write with.
Marty Feldman

I recently read that love is entirely a matter of chemistry. That must be why my wife treats me like toxic waste.
David Bissonnette

If love is the answer, could you rephrase the question?
Lily Tomlin

Women speak because they wish to speak, whereas a man speaks only when driven to speech by something outside himself -- like, for instance, he can't find any clean socks.
Jean Kerr

I like work: it fascinates me. I can sit and look at it for hours.
Jerome K Jerome

The difference between fiction and reality? Fiction has to make sense.
Tom Clancy

I handed in a script last year and the studio didn't change one word. The word they didn't change was on page 87.
Steve Martin

It took me fifteen years to discover that I had no talent for writing, but I couldn't give it up because by that time I was too famous.
Robert Benchley

“A day without sunshine is like, you know, night.”
Steve Martin

Mom, I want a spiderman suit, now.
Where do I find it, now ?
Wait, I tell you mom...at the chemist's shop ?!?
My son


:D :D :D

Sunday, July 5, 2009

who's fault?


It's frequent, when things don't go the way we want, we tend to find the fault somewhere, some people, to feel better , blame others, some blame themselves. In either case there's no point in doing that.
First, when things happens in a certain way it's a conjunction of several factors, so to figure out who's the fault, is difficult.... second, people often do their best, but sometimes fail, nobody's perfect...third, although you find the blameful and you condemn, and or punish, what will you obtain?
Sometimes things happen, because they happen, that's all, accept it, try to take the best out of it, and go ahead.

Friday, July 3, 2009

9 - Shifting our attention on the positive side


Many people are accustomed, by family and society, to think negative, as I was, they don't even know they have the possibility to change their way of thinkin' (unfortunately we are not provided with an instruction booklet when we are born).
But fortunately, at the age of 40 I met someone who told me that it is possible, and everybody can do it, so I can define me lucky, and you too, because you are reading this blog ;-), if you apply what I tell you, your life can really improve, as mine.
So, here we are, as previously explained we can control our thoughts, and our thoughts, the images, the sounds we play in our minds effect the way we feel, so when we find ourself going over and over a problem, or complaining, or fearing some "possible" future event, first we want to realize this, then shifting our focus on.... finding a solution for the problem in some creative way...or counting our blessing, instead....or understanding that they are only thoughts, nothing real, then start thinking something positive. An example, you are complaining about your husband, what you hate of him ....instead start focusing on his qualities, on the many good things he does, if you really want you'll find something, lol!
I find this story is beautiful ....
is from "Love Stories from the Heart." It's called "Extraordinary People."
Larry and Joanne were an ordinary couple. They lived in an ordinary house on an ordinary street. Like other ordinary couples they struggled to make ends meet and provide for their children. They were ordinary in another way, also. They had their squabbles. Much of their conversation concerned what was wrong in their marriage, until one day when a most extraordinary event took place. "You know, Joanne, I have a magic chest of drawers. Every time I open it, it's full of socks," Larry said. I want to thank you for washing them all these years." Joanne peered at her husband over her spectacles. "What do you want, Larry?" she said. "Nothing! I just want you to know how much I appreciate the magic drawer." This wasn't the first time Larry had said something odd, but Joanne decided to put these remarks away in the back of her mind along with the previous ones. Later, Larry said, "Joanne, that was a great meal. I appreciate all your effort. I bet over the past 15 years you have fixed over 14,000 meals." A little later, Larry said, "Gee, Joanne, the house looks spiffy." Another time, "Joanne, thanks just for being you." Day in and day out, Larry continued to focus on the positive. Then one day, Larry said, "Joanne, I want you to take a little break. I will do the dishes." "Why, thank you, Larry." Joanne's voice sounded a little lighter, and her self-confidence felt a little stronger. A little later, Joanne said, "Larry, I want to thank you for going to work and for providing for us all these years. I really appreciate you. I love you."

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