Friday, September 18, 2009
Usually someone gets angry when things don't go the way he wants to, or the way he believes is right.
And becomes desperate almost for the same reason, things are going bad and he doesn't see a way out.
There is a conflict between the actual situation and what he wishes, or what he believes it should be.
In each cases, often the reaction is exaggerated compared to what has provoked it, let's think about someone whose parking is stolen, some people can become furious about that, even become violent.
What's happened? yes the other one acted wrong, or may be he thinks he's right, but the "victim" takes a small fact and let it become huge.
He focus all his attention on it, he continuously repeat it in his mind, he doesn't see anything else, he doesn't see that ... it's only a parking, may be there is another one....maybe he was waiting and I didn't see him...let's forgive and go ahead...
When you see someone acting like this, maybe you think he's a bit mad, loosing his temper for what.
Do you know why? the answer is you are detached from the situation, you see it in perspective, you give the right weight to what's happened.
So, next time you see yourself becoming angry, try to gain some perspective, ask yourself if what's happening is so grave, note that life cannot be always the way we want to, that other people have a right to their opinion, and this can conflict with our own point of view.
To be continued...