Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Celebration - Osho zen tarot.

Zen Tarot Card
Life is a moment to celebrate, to enjoy. Make it fun, a celebration, and then you will enter the temple. The temple is not for the long-faced, it has never been for them. Look at life--do you see sadness anywhere? Have you ever seen a tree depressed? Have you seen a bird anxiety-ridden? Have you seen an animal neurotic? No, life is not like that, not at all. Only man has gone wrong somewhere, and he has gone wrong somewhere because he thinks himself to be very wise, very clever. Your cleverness is your disease. Don't be too wise. Always remember to stop; don't go to the extreme. A little foolishness and a little wisdom is good, and the right combination makes you a buddha.
Osho I Celebrate Myself Chapter 4

These three women dancing in the wind and the rain remind us that celebration never need depend on outside circumstances. We need not wait for a special holiday or a formal occasion, nor a sunny and cloudless day. True celebration arises from a joy that is first experienced deep within, and spills over into an overflow of song and dance and laughter, and yes, even tears of gratitude. When you choose this card, it indicates that you are becoming more and more available and open to the many opportunities that are to celebrate in life, and to spread this by contagion to others. Don't bother about scheduling a party on your calendar. Let your hair down, take your shoes off, and start splashing in the puddles right now. The party is happening all around you every moment!


Saturday, November 13, 2010

The rebel ( Osho Zen Tarot ).

Zen Tarot Card
The Rebel
People are afraid, very much afraid of those who know themselves. They have a certain power, a certain aura and a certain magnetism, a charisma that can take out alive, young people from the traditional imprisonment....

The enlightened man cannot be enslaved - that is the difficulty - and he cannot be imprisoned.... Every genius who has known something of the inner is bound to be a little difficult to be absorbed; he is going to be an upsetting force. The masses don't want to be disturbed, even though they may be in misery; they are in misery, but they are accustomed to the misery. And anybody who is not miserable looks like a stranger.

The enlightened man is the greatest stranger in the world; he does not seem to belong to anybody. No organization confines him, no community, no society, no nation.
Osho The Zen Manifesto: Freedom from Oneself Chapter 9
The powerful and authoritative figure in this card is clearly the master of his own destiny. On his shoulder is an emblem of the sun, and the torch he holds in his right hand symbolizes the light of his own hard-won truth.

Whether he is wealthy or poor, the Rebel is really an emperor because he has broken the chains of society's repressive conditioning and opinions. He has formed himself by embracing all the colors of the rainbow, emerging from the dark and formless roots of his unconscious past and growing wings to fly into the sky. His very way of being is rebellious - not because he is fighting against anybody or anything, but because he has discovered his own true nature and is determined to live in accordance with it. The eagle is his spirit animal, a messenger between earth and sky.

The Rebel challenges us to be courageous enough to take responsibility for who we are and to live our truth.

From here.

Monday, September 20, 2010

On wealth.

Do you have some kind of struggle with money and wealth?
Is it difficult to change your mindset and feel at ease with this topic?
I found this site, and think it's very inspiring and insightful.
Enjoy and let me know ;)

Monday, August 23, 2010

Consciously directing your thoughts.


The more time you spend thinking positively, less are the probabilities to have negative thoughts.
Consciously directing your thoughts towards the positive, makes you feel better, but it's not always easy.
One of the solutions can reside in writing them.
Putting your thoughts on paper can be very useful and focusing.
One tool for doing that can be The book of positive aspects, to know more click here.
Another tool is The rampage of appreciation, click here.
Another one is: Wouldn't it be nice if....?
When there is something that's not going as I wish, or something that I would like to achieve, but it's difficult,
I write it on paper in this form.
Eg: wouldn't it be nice if my two kids go well together?
It put me in a far better mood than to think: WTH don't they stop to fight?
And if I am in a good mood and calm, there are higher possibilities to find a solution.
Cheers! ;)
All these tools are from the book: Ask and it is given, by Esther and Jerry Hicks.
Have I told how much I appreciate that book?

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

What am I? What are we?

I could say I am a 42 years old woman, a wife, a mother, an Italian...what else?
To be able to live in our society we are taught from babyhood to tag everything, we divide things and people and animals, all in groups with certain features, but.
I am 42 years old, yes, but what is time?
Actually time doesn't exist, isn't something real, it's created by men for.... organizing things?
The only time there is, is the present moment.
So I don't have age, wow!
Woman, what is a woman? it's a human being with female reproductive system, ok I'm a woman, but if by woman you expect someone with a dress and high heels, make up and purse, sorry I'm not a woman.
I'm a wife, but what exactly is a wife, are we all the same? (husbands are not allowed to answer)
A mother?
I'm Italian because I'm born and live in Italy, but what exactly an Italian is like? (Hey! in the whole world pizza is loved)
Etc, etc...I could say I'm a human being, or better a living being, but when science says that there is no matter, we are only a bunch of atoms, kept together by energy, actually matter is slowed energy.
So what am I?
I'm energy and everything else around is energy, in different forms.
If so we are all part of the same stuff.
If so me, and you, and the rock, and the tree, and the sea, we are all the same, and yet everyone is unique.
So why to insist in grouping and dividing, and fighting?

Sunday, August 8, 2010

Enjoying being alone.

I saw this video on this blog, and it inspired me to write this post.

In my experience I found that we are raised with the fear of being alone, almost everybody consider family and friends the most important things in the world.
Are we social animals?
May be yes, in a threatening world, counting on other people's help, love and support is a form of security, something that gives us peace and tranquility.
Allows us to not to feel worry and get ahead with our own life.
And to be happy, yes?
But this tranquility has a price, and the price is freedom.
Because to get along well with people one has to compromise, and if you are afraid of being left alone you are ready to compromise yourself too much.
One thing is to deny yourself in order to please others, because you are afraid to be alone.
Another thing is to love yourself, to please yourself, to enjoy whatever you do, when you are alone, and when you are with others it's beautiful as well.
But you can be well in each case.
You are no needy, and you know what? people will like you more, but this is only a secondary effect.

Sunday, July 18, 2010

The book of positive aspects.

This game or exercise, as you prefer, is from the beautiful book, "Ask and it is given" by Esther and Jerry Hicks.
I think it's beautiful, because it's full of positive "stuff", tools to help people to live a more joyous life.
The purpose of this game, is to view life in a more positive way, which in the end will make you feel better ;)
I love to feel good, don't you?
So, first you take or buy a beautiful notebook, one that you like very much and it feels good to write on.
You write on the cover in bold letters "Book of positive aspects"
Then you think about something or someone that makes you feel good.
And you entitle the first page with its name.
And you list all the things that came to your mind, that you like, and appreciate about it.
Then you think about another subject and do the same.
You can do this for at least 15 or 20 minutes, but actually you can do it as long as you like it.
And the more you do it, the more you find things that are appreciable, and you start to see your life with new eyes.

Friday, July 9, 2010

Get rid of your negative beliefs.

Yesterday I found on You Tube, this interesting session in which Morty Lefkoe and Joe Vitale, show how negative beliefs unconsciously affect our lives, and how to get rid of them with the Lefkoe Method.

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Pearls of wisdom in a joke.

Today I read this joke here, and I found it amazingly insightful:

A dog thinks: Hey, these people I live with feed me, love me, provide me with a nice warm, dry house, pet me, and take good care of me... They must be gods!

A cat thinks: Hey, these people I live with feed me, love me, provide me with a nice warm, dry house, pet me, and take good care of me... I must be a god!

It perfectly shows how we can give opposite meanings to the same fact, and still they can both make sense.


Friday, June 11, 2010

How competition and awards are detrimental for individuals....

....but are good for the society.
Today I was reading a post over at Terra Del Sole, and I got angry.
I was (am) angry at the kind of society we are living in, that makes people unhappy.
And we ARE the society, unconsciously we bring forward what are, for me, ugly traditions, and I explain you why.
The post was about a child who was sad for never winning an award at school.
Let's talk about competition.
We are full of competitions, starting from sports, school, job, family....
What competition is for?
People strive to improve themselves, because they want to be considered better then others, because they want to be admired, because finally what they really want is to be loved.
Because they are not so able to love themselves, 'cos if they were, they wouldn't care about others' admiration.
The result is, we can have great achievements, but are we happy?
May be the winner is happy for a little while, but then he has to keep winning, or better improving, which is hard, second he has to deal with other people's envy.
Want to talk about the fact that if there is one winner, all the others are losers?
How happy are they?
In my point of view, competition mostly bring misery.
Awards are part of competition, are something that makes you feel special for a while (and all the others, losers ), are something in whose name you are willing to sacrifice yourself.
Awards and competition, are tools with whom the society keep people productive and quiet, basically "slaves".

Thursday, May 6, 2010

Oh! this is so nice!

I found a beautiful game in a book I'm reading.

The book is "Ask and it's given" by Esther and Jerry Hicks, and the game is called the rampage of appreciation.

Actually it's something that I've always done, inconsciously, and it's why I love to surround myself with, and contemplate beauty, it gives me joy.

The purpose of it is to feel joyful, to feel well, and when I read it, I smiled and loved it immediately.

So here it is, enjoy:

This Rampage of Appreciation game can be played anywhere and at any time because it is a game that is easily played simply by directing pleasant thoughts in your mind. If you were to write your thoughts on paper, it would enhance this process, but it is not necessary.
Begin by looking around your immediate environment and gently noticing something that pleases you. Try to hold your attention on this pleasing object as you consider how wonderful, beautiful, or useful it is. And as you focus upon it longer, your positive feelings about it will increase.
Now, notice your improved feeling, and be appreciative of the way you feel. Then, once your good feeling is noticeably stronger than when you began, look around your environment and choose another pleasing object for your positive attention.

Ask and It Is Given – pg. 143

Tuesday, May 4, 2010

The meaning makes the difference.

image from: www.ericweisstein.com/

How we see life, how we experience events, how we feel towards something or someone, it depends from the meaning we give to it.
And the meaning we give to it, depends from our previous experiences or from what we've been told, from what we believe.
Reality is as it is, but we attribute a quality to it, this is good, this is bad, I like this, I don't like that.
And often we judge, and we jump at a conclusion, without even being aware of it.
For example a person is ignoring me, I can think, he's annoyed with me (because I experienced a situation like that before).
Am I sure? or is this a meaning that I'm giving to the situation?
May be he has his own problems.
May be he wants to stay alone.
May be he's sad.
May be he's busy.
We don't know what the truth is.
When there is a situation, or an event that makes us suffer.
(or when we are aware that we are judging)
Ask ourselves, what is the meaning I gave to it?
What other possible meanings are there?
Eventually we can stop to give it a negative meaning.
Or we can stop to give any meaning.

Friday, April 9, 2010

What if all were right?


I grew up thinking that if what I believe is right, he who thinks differently is wrong, and that there are right things, and wrong things.
Some days ago, someone with whom I had a discussion told me: see, we are both right.
It was like a shot, a nice one however.
I realized it was true, and the more I reflect over it, the more it makes sense, and the more I understand the world.
We suppose that our way of life is right, what we believe is right, so different people must be wrong, or weird, or less evolved, or....
But probably they think the same about us.
So who's right?
Everybody or none.
It was like, the horse thinking that the birds flying, or the fish swimming is not good and even trying to "convert" them to the gallop. Silly uh?
It's something to remember when we have an argument with someone.

When a goal makes us unhappy.

It can happen that we have a dream, a desire, something that we really want to achieve, something that we think will make us happy.
But if we give it too much importance, we won't feel at ease unless we reach it, thus preventing ourself from being serene now, from enjoying what we already have.
And high chances are, that when we reach our goal, we won't be able to enjoy that moment too, because we are not accustomed to appreciate the present.
What I find useful in this case, is to keep a certain detachment.
Having a goal, doing what it takes to reach it, but knowing that everything is perfect just now.

Wednesday, March 24, 2010

When a critics hurts, and inferiority complex.

Sometimes it happens that, as a child, when we are criticized, scolded, or rejected we can suppose that we are not good enough, or that we are unworthy or that we are less than other people.
When we grow, most probably we understand that each individual is unique, and there is no point in making comparisons with others.
However, when we receive a critics, it can still hurt in an disproportionate way.
We can even hate the one who "makes us feel" in this manner.
Probably because it reminds us the way we felt in our past.
It's like an old wound that opens again.
In this case realize that:
-If we err, it doesn't mean that we "are wrong".
-When someone criticize us, it's his problem, he had some expectations that we have not fulfilled.
-We are not supposed to fulfill other people's expectations.
-If we have thought not to be worthy, or not to be good enough, or that other people were better than us, it was only a meaning that "we gave" to a certain situation.
-Nobody's perfect. ;)
Hope this helps.

Thursday, March 11, 2010

How we are treated, it ( often if not always ) depends on us.


And it is not a matter of blame, it's a matter of responsibility, and freedom.
It often occurred and occurs to me that, when I feel sick or weak, small children become more annoying and intrusive.
Or, when I felt guilty, or afraid, or unworthy, people around me tended to treat me in a more aggressive way, and take advantage of me.
It is commonly known, that victims of aggressions and violence ( emotional too ), are mostly gentle people, people who are afraid, people who feel weak and insecure, or with low self esteem.
All this makes me think that there is a strong connection between what we think and feel, and the way people treat us.
Like...if I think that I'm ridiculous, people will mock me...If I think that I'm not worthy, people will trample on me...if I'm afraid, I will "attract" what I'm afraid of, etc.
It is like, our thoughts and feelings, make us behave in a certain way, and unconsciously we emit signals that trigger other people's aggressive side, or attract aggressive people.
So, if someone treated you bad, figure out why and how you allowed him.
And change what you think, and what you feel about yourself.
When we feel confident, and strong, and respect ourself, most likely people will do the same.

Saturday, February 27, 2010

Reality transurfing.

I recently happened to know about a book of Vadim Zeland, Reality transurfing the space of variations, and I found one chapter online.
I find it very interesting and illuminating, like I had the pieces of a puzzle, and now somebody is showing me the structure of it.
It's about how things happen, and how to take the best out of life.
If you want to read the chapter click here.

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

What others think of me.

I don't care so much.
End of the post.
No well, I explain better.
Once I was always concerned about what people thought of me, and did all the possible to make a good impression.
I tried to please, I did my best to make people happy about me, and satisfied of me.
Needless to say, I always failed.
Now I understand, there is a certain kind of people, who's never satisfied, who's never content, whatever you do, it's about the way they see things, something is always missing, no matter what.
They usually complain, and criticize, and that's their problem, important is, don't complain too loud.
And there are people who is always content, in any case.
Guess with whom I prefer to stay?
Now I am myself, I do my best, period.
No anxiety, no struggle, because I know, what other people think, doesn't depend on me.
Once I read a quote, I don't remember exactly.... approximately it was.....those who care aren't worth, those who are worth don't care....I like it!

Saturday, February 13, 2010


I was reflecting about some strange behavior, when I had the inspiration to write this post.
All begun when I noted that a peculiar gift a husband gave to his wife, could have had a hidden meaning.
Obviously the wife was puzzled and annoyed by the gift, but if she tried to discover and understand what the meaning of the gift was, probably it would have been better.
The fact is, that we often, if not always, act unconsciously, but if we observe our or other's behavior attentively, we can discover a lot of things.
I make some example to better express my thought.
It can happens that we talk with someone, and despite what we've been said, we have a strange gut feeling.
May be, the person was lying, and somehow his face was "saying" the contrary of his words, and deep down we felt the incongruence.
If you carefully observe the face of people you are dealing with, you probably will know how this person is feeling, if he is bored, or angry, or distracted, or whatever...despite what he's saying.
Another thing I noted, about myself....I never eat bitter food, I hate it, I prefer sweet, and the case wants that I do all the possible to avoid life's bitterness, as my husband says I would like a life "all sugar and honey".
People that I know personally, that love bitter or tangy stuff, are a bit bitter themselves, and as I see, accept better life's unpleasantness.
It is well known that with our clothes, houses, cars, furniture, objects, we express what we are, or what we would like to be, we try to impress others, or we express our personality.
I was amazed how, reading with attention my own posts, I could have an insight of what was working inside of me, it was all there, written black on white.
Our likes, dislikes, choices, behaviors, can say a lot about our true self, so if you want to understand yourself or people, observe, and if you are puzzled by something, ask yourself, what could be the deep meaning?

Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Being able to say no.

Sometimes, to say no can be difficult. We are afraid to disappoint other's expectations or to offend them, thus we prefer to renounce at our own good.
May be for the fear of not being loved or liked, may be because we believe in the goodness of helping people.
I totally understand it, I've been there, and sometimes, for the sake of a relationship, one have to compromise.
But there is a limit, when something becomes too stressful, when really one don't want/can do it, or when someone is taking advantage of you, i think it is so much better to say no.
Preferably a nice no.
Otherwise there is a high possibility that saying a forced yes, one will feel ill about it, will feel a victim, will feel resentful, will complain about it, can even become sick because of it, and surely will be untrue.
And if one allows someone to take advantage of him, because he doesn't want to say no, then it's his responsibility, and don't come to me to complain, okay? ;)
I find, one has to take care for oneself first, to love oneself first, then he will have the energy and the possibility to care about others.
If one sacrifices himself, expecting that others will do the same for him, don't be fooled, often it will not happen.
But when one does things out of love, 100% willingly, and without expectations, this is great :)

Monday, January 25, 2010

When we don't get what we want.

In my experience I found that, when I don't get what I want, it's because I don't want it 100%.
Sometimes we think we want something, but deeply, there are aspects of the situation that we don't like.
I make some example, may be I would like to have a lot of money, but I have some beliefs that rich people are egoists, that having a lot of money it's unfair, that to have money you have to cheat....
May be I would like to lose weight, but I fear that I'll change my personality, or that if I'm pretty, I will cheat on my husband, or....
When we have conflicting believes, consciously we try to achieve something, while our unconscious works against our efforts, thus feeling stuck.
So next time you cannot attain something, despite your efforts, try to figure out what are the true reasons behind.
Ask yourself "what are my fears, or what could happen, or what are the aspects that I don't like about it?"

Sunday, January 24, 2010

My blog's policy.


I thought it was not necessary to write about it, but I saw and read something that made me change my mind.
So may be it's better to express my thoughts about this topic.
I, as a blogger, enjoy when people appreciate what I write (obviously), and comment about it, and may be follow me, but only if it is out of a total freedom, hopefully if it's really meant it.
I, personally don't follow blogs only because I want that they follow me, I read blogs that I really enjoy or that I find interesting.
And when I comment, I mean it, it is not because I have to.
It is true, that if you want to be known, and if you want to raise your readers, you have to visit and comment on other blogs, or join communities, as I did, however I want to stay true to myself, so I follow and comment only on blogs I really like.
So, now you know it, what do you think?
Thanks for listening.
After I wrote this I read my horoscope, here what it said:
"If you have to deal with groups of people or with the general public, you will advocate change and new policies".

Thursday, January 14, 2010

The body mind connection.


Recently I had some insights about the connection between body and mind, in relation to body weight, and I would like to express them, seeing if someone can confirm them ( or not :).
One day I heard someone saying...oh, that person is so shallow! and I noted that person was so skinny.
Is it just a case, or effectively lighthearted people (shallow has a more negative meaning) are lighter, than deep and serious and thoughtful people?
Why often people gain weight after marriage and having babies (women), does it have to do with the burden of responsibilities this imply?
Is it possible that a married person grows fat to avoid hypothetical extramarital relationship? (becoming unattractive)
One day I read that sometimes people grow fat or become even obese because they unconsciously seek visibility and attention.
Being mostly a "mental" person, is it possible that the body needs attention? Thus growing more and more to be noted?
...too much for today...
What about you? Do you recognize yourself in anything I said? Opinions?

Monday, January 4, 2010

When we feel uneasy with a person or a situation.

Today I met a person I really prefer not to meet, ......'s intrusive, and annoying, and it seems I cannot deal with ..... nor can I avoid ...... "nicely", but I digress...when at home I could not help to think about ......, and feel uneasy, but I used this quick and easy technique to stop the thoughts and feelings.
So when there is a person or a situation that makes you anxious or sad, or angry, or whatever, try this....imagine the subject, then imagine it shrinking, becoming dark, moving away from you, far, far away, until it becomes a spot and disappears.
With me it worked immediately, I totally forgot about h... until now...;)
I 'm afraid I have to do it again... kidding!

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