Saturday, February 27, 2010
I recently happened to know about a book of Vadim Zeland, Reality transurfing the space of variations, and I found one chapter online.
I find it very interesting and illuminating, like I had the pieces of a puzzle, and now somebody is showing me the structure of it.
It's about how things happen, and how to take the best out of life.
If you want to read the chapter click here.
Tuesday, February 16, 2010
I don't care so much.
End of the post.
No well, I explain better.
Once I was always concerned about what people thought of me, and did all the possible to make a good impression.
I tried to please, I did my best to make people happy about me, and satisfied of me.
Needless to say, I always failed.
Now I understand, there is a certain kind of people, who's never satisfied, who's never content, whatever you do, it's about the way they see things, something is always missing, no matter what.
They usually complain, and criticize, and that's their problem, important is, don't complain too loud.
And there are people who is always content, in any case.
Guess with whom I prefer to stay?
Now I am myself, I do my best, period.
No anxiety, no struggle, because I know, what other people think, doesn't depend on me.
Once I read a quote, I don't remember exactly.... approximately it was.....those who care aren't worth, those who are worth don't care....I like it!
Saturday, February 13, 2010
I was reflecting about some strange behavior, when I had the inspiration to write this post.
All begun when I noted that a peculiar gift a husband gave to his wife, could have had a hidden meaning.
Obviously the wife was puzzled and annoyed by the gift, but if she tried to discover and understand what the meaning of the gift was, probably it would have been better.
The fact is, that we often, if not always, act unconsciously, but if we observe our or other's behavior attentively, we can discover a lot of things.
I make some example to better express my thought.
It can happens that we talk with someone, and despite what we've been said, we have a strange gut feeling.
May be, the person was lying, and somehow his face was "saying" the contrary of his words, and deep down we felt the incongruence.
If you carefully observe the face of people you are dealing with, you probably will know how this person is feeling, if he is bored, or angry, or distracted, or whatever...despite what he's saying.
Another thing I noted, about myself....I never eat bitter food, I hate it, I prefer sweet, and the case wants that I do all the possible to avoid life's bitterness, as my husband says I would like a life "all sugar and honey".
People that I know personally, that love bitter or tangy stuff, are a bit bitter themselves, and as I see, accept better life's unpleasantness.
It is well known that with our clothes, houses, cars, furniture, objects, we express what we are, or what we would like to be, we try to impress others, or we express our personality.
I was amazed how, reading with attention my own posts, I could have an insight of what was working inside of me, it was all there, written black on white.
Our likes, dislikes, choices, behaviors, can say a lot about our true self, so if you want to understand yourself or people, observe, and if you are puzzled by something, ask yourself, what could be the deep meaning?
Tuesday, February 9, 2010
Sometimes, to say no can be difficult. We are afraid to disappoint other's expectations or to offend them, thus we prefer to renounce at our own good.
May be for the fear of not being loved or liked, may be because we believe in the goodness of helping people.
I totally understand it, I've been there, and sometimes, for the sake of a relationship, one have to compromise.
But there is a limit, when something becomes too stressful, when really one don't want/can do it, or when someone is taking advantage of you, i think it is so much better to say no.
Preferably a nice no.
Otherwise there is a high possibility that saying a forced yes, one will feel ill about it, will feel a victim, will feel resentful, will complain about it, can even become sick because of it, and surely will be untrue.
And if one allows someone to take advantage of him, because he doesn't want to say no, then it's his responsibility, and don't come to me to complain, okay? ;)
I find, one has to take care for oneself first, to love oneself first, then he will have the energy and the possibility to care about others.
If one sacrifices himself, expecting that others will do the same for him, don't be fooled, often it will not happen.
But when one does things out of love, 100% willingly, and without expectations, this is great :)