Wednesday, March 24, 2010
When a critics hurts, and inferiority complex.
Sometimes it happens that, as a child, when we are criticized, scolded, or rejected we can suppose that we are not good enough, or that we are unworthy or that we are less than other people.
When we grow, most probably we understand that each individual is unique, and there is no point in making comparisons with others.
However, when we receive a critics, it can still hurt in an disproportionate way.
We can even hate the one who "makes us feel" in this manner.
Probably because it reminds us the way we felt in our past.
It's like an old wound that opens again.
In this case realize that:
-If we err, it doesn't mean that we "are wrong".
-When someone criticize us, it's his problem, he had some expectations that we have not fulfilled.
-We are not supposed to fulfill other people's expectations.
-If we have thought not to be worthy, or not to be good enough, or that other people were better than us, it was only a meaning that "we gave" to a certain situation.
-Nobody's perfect. ;)
Hope this helps.