Monday, August 23, 2010

Consciously directing your thoughts.


The more time you spend thinking positively, less are the probabilities to have negative thoughts.
Consciously directing your thoughts towards the positive, makes you feel better, but it's not always easy.
One of the solutions can reside in writing them.
Putting your thoughts on paper can be very useful and focusing.
One tool for doing that can be The book of positive aspects, to know more click here.
Another tool is The rampage of appreciation, click here.
Another one is: Wouldn't it be nice if....?
When there is something that's not going as I wish, or something that I would like to achieve, but it's difficult,
I write it on paper in this form.
Eg: wouldn't it be nice if my two kids go well together?
It put me in a far better mood than to think: WTH don't they stop to fight?
And if I am in a good mood and calm, there are higher possibilities to find a solution.
Cheers! ;)
All these tools are from the book: Ask and it is given, by Esther and Jerry Hicks.
Have I told how much I appreciate that book?

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

What am I? What are we?

I could say I am a 42 years old woman, a wife, a mother, an Italian...what else?
To be able to live in our society we are taught from babyhood to tag everything, we divide things and people and animals, all in groups with certain features, but.
I am 42 years old, yes, but what is time?
Actually time doesn't exist, isn't something real, it's created by men for.... organizing things?
The only time there is, is the present moment.
So I don't have age, wow!
Woman, what is a woman? it's a human being with female reproductive system, ok I'm a woman, but if by woman you expect someone with a dress and high heels, make up and purse, sorry I'm not a woman.
I'm a wife, but what exactly is a wife, are we all the same? (husbands are not allowed to answer)
A mother?
I'm Italian because I'm born and live in Italy, but what exactly an Italian is like? (Hey! in the whole world pizza is loved)
Etc, etc...I could say I'm a human being, or better a living being, but when science says that there is no matter, we are only a bunch of atoms, kept together by energy, actually matter is slowed energy.
So what am I?
I'm energy and everything else around is energy, in different forms.
If so we are all part of the same stuff.
If so me, and you, and the rock, and the tree, and the sea, we are all the same, and yet everyone is unique.
So why to insist in grouping and dividing, and fighting?

Sunday, August 8, 2010

Enjoying being alone.

I saw this video on this blog, and it inspired me to write this post.

In my experience I found that we are raised with the fear of being alone, almost everybody consider family and friends the most important things in the world.
Are we social animals?
May be yes, in a threatening world, counting on other people's help, love and support is a form of security, something that gives us peace and tranquility.
Allows us to not to feel worry and get ahead with our own life.
And to be happy, yes?
But this tranquility has a price, and the price is freedom.
Because to get along well with people one has to compromise, and if you are afraid of being left alone you are ready to compromise yourself too much.
One thing is to deny yourself in order to please others, because you are afraid to be alone.
Another thing is to love yourself, to please yourself, to enjoy whatever you do, when you are alone, and when you are with others it's beautiful as well.
But you can be well in each case.
You are no needy, and you know what? people will like you more, but this is only a secondary effect.

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